Equal Relationships?

I have this belief that in each relationship, there should be an equality between both parties. For example, if I treat you as a really good friend, I confide in you things, I tell you my thoughts and decisions, I expect you to tell me yours. Otherwise I'd feel like I'm a burden to you, that this is a one sided relationship.

This belief was being shaken to the core this weekend. No relationship seems to be equal. But because I'm a story teller and I'm not one to hide facts (unless I think you won't be able to take it), I am very open about my life. Trust is easily given. Gee... I must be still so damn naive even almost at 40.

Have I lost an old friend? I have exposed my life, struggles, emotions, vulnerabilities but when I asked you about something that was similarly bothering you, you shut me out. Have I been so blind not to realize that this a one way road type of friendship? I then thank you for being my therapist, for providing me with a listening ear. But is that all I am to you, a duty as a friend?

While for another, I have already lost you. You said you'd still want to be friends through thick and thin. I stupidly believed you and hoped you would stay. Honey, it hurts to discover that you've been put on restricted view on Facebook. The irony of it is that I'm more hurt that you did it first instead of me. So, if we both put each other on restricted views, what's the point of being friends, eh?

So here I am, trying to find the root cause of these disappointments in friendships. And it comes to my belief that you would do onto others as you would have others onto you. I'm discovering that this is highly flawed.

Yet, I have come to accept this from a really really good friend who doesn't tell me anything until one fine conversation, facts like, changing a car, and, plans of migrating to a new country soon. I initially felt very left out of her life for not telling me these things/life decisions, as though I was not part of her life. But until today, she remains a really good friend and I appreciate whatever she gives me.

Then why is it that I cannot accept the same from other people?

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Okay, after reading some answers on Quora on this, I agree and will now shift my thinking on this equality in relationships. I'll simply need to be grateful for what I can get and what I choose to divulge of my life is merely that, my choice. It should not be sometime I would impose on others.