The "Right" One

What makes a relationship a relationship? How do you choose your partner?

Obviously, you wouldn't be with someone who is vastly different from your own convictions. Like, I wouldn't date a serial killer, or a drug addict, or someone who loves torturing and killing animals, or someone who is a Justin Beiber fan (just sayin').

But then again, no one will be able to fit your perfect match. No one will be your all in all. No one will be able to make you completely happy. The solution to that is to have other people substituting or outsourcing what your partner lacks.

If your partner may not like travelling as much as you do, you go find someone else to travel with. He/she may not be interested about baking/reading, so you outsource and spend time with someone who does. To what extent can you "outsource" all these things but still have a relationship with this person?

With that in mind, I now wonder, to what extent do you say of this person, "This is the one for me"?

Some people say, you should have the same sense of humour or whatever is important to you. What IS important to me? And why is it important?

I know of couples who even have sexual relationships outside of their partnership but both are fine with it. This greatly puzzles me because maybe I currently view sex as exclusive. I've also heard of couples who date each other but they have their own homes to go back to at the end of the day. They're both divorcees and this arrangement suits them.

Then I also ask, is there really a point of getting married again? When I'm already at this age where I won't be able to have kids, why do I need to tie myself down with anyone? The meaning of marriage has been lost to me to the point that it's just a piece of paper. Sure it's a bit more cumbersome to split but that didn't stop the split.

Sigh. Who knows. Never say never. And perhaps I'm still going through much healing. I should ask my counselor this one day.